You’ve just woken up with a hellish hangover. Or consumed a family-sized block of chocolate.
A sinking feeling starts to creep into the pit of your stomach.
You think: “Okay this is it. I’m never doing this to myself again.”
Then the next week you find yourself right back in that exact same space.
I think we’ve all been there.
What is it that keeps us returning to our old self-limiting behaviours?
I’ve got a sneaking suspicion our minds play a pretty big part. And I reckon our body holds the key to the solution.
In this video I’m sharing a simple mind and body awareness exercise that I used continuously through-out the holidays to help me say no to alcohol (I’m currently taking a break from booze).
It’s easy and it works.
1. Learn to discern between what is mind chatter and what your body really wants. Check out the list of tools below that I use to help me with this process. These tools will help you to cultivate a connection of love and respect with your body (oh so important for body awareness).
2. Get down and dirty with your body. In other words, listen to and feel the messages she is sharing with you. No guilt. No judgement. Just listen.
3. Trust and take action! Your body is wise and won’t lead you astray.
Tools to encourage mind and body awareness
\\ Let yourself feel, without judgement.
Girls are taught from a pretty young age that particular feelings are good and others are bad. Anger – bad. Sexual desires – bad. Sweet and kind – good. When we move into adulthood, we start judging our feelings and this causes us to deny our true feelings and ultimately disconnects us from our body. Try devoting 10 minutes a day to writing in your journal. Write about how you’re feeling and what thoughts are buzzing through your head.
Journaling has a two-fold effect. Writing your noisy mind down on a page seems to quieten the beast. But more importantly, as you write down your feelings, you’ll start to notice how your body responds to particular emotions. In other words, you’ll start to really feel them in your body. And this, my friend, is how you start to rekindle the connection with your body.
\\ Quieten your mind
Meditation. Every day. Do it. Seriously. You should. Here’s a list of my favourite meditation resources.
I know I bang on a lot about kinesiology. This is because it’s given me such ground-breaking results (read more about my story here). I truly believe this is by far the easiest and quickest method for getting to know who you are, what your soul wants, and what your body is telling you. It is healing on steroids.
I highly recommend Nicole Mathieson.
What the heck is kinesiology? Check out this podcast with Melissa Sandon and Susana Frioni explaining all.
\\ A little word on urges
“Old urges will continue to arise, perhaps for years. Urges do not matter; actions do.”
I love this quote from The Way of the Peaceful Warrior and reflect on it often in my journal.
It’s okay to want a drink (it’s also totally okay to have a drink if you do it for the right reasons). When those feelings come up acknowledge them without judgement and then tap into the wisdom from your body to find out what she really wants you to do.
\\ Devote to your truth
Anything that distracts or numbs (read: binge drinking) pulls you away from the truth of who you really are. The longer you stay away from that truth, the harder it becomes to pull yourself back.
I have no time anymore for being anything other than who I really am because I know the path of truth offers the most bliss and happiness.
So, when all else fails, I ask myself: “Is this going to help me to live and be the truth of who I really am?” If the answer is no, then I just don’t do it.
I’d love to know, what self-limiting behaviours are you hoping to lovingly let go of this year? And, how connected do you feel to your own body? Tell me all about it in the comments.