Dear Alcohol, I’m leaving you

Dear alcohol

Wowzers, this year has been a big one. Break throughs (break downs?), great truths and health scares. It’s been a hell of a ride.

My big take-away message:

Being present and honest is the key to true happiness.

Alcohol, with it’s gifts of masks and escapism, has lost it’s shine. It’s robbed me of my true happiness for way too long.

I haven’t picked up a drink for the last month and it feels oh-so-good. Today I’m taking things one step further, I’m making this pledge to give alcohol the old heave-ho for at least three months.

In this video I discuss how my break through earlier this year paved the way for me discovering who I really am and why alcohol can no longer be part of the new journey I’m now embarking on.

I’d love to know, are you being called to give up anything in your life right now? Perhaps it’s alcohol, a toxic relationship or an old habit. I’d love to hear about it in the comments below.

Alana

8 Responses to Dear Alcohol, I’m leaving you

  1. Kris November 20, 2014 at 3:42 pm #

    Very brave Alana, well done you!! Saying it out loud and so publicly is to be admired. I really respect that and haven’t been able to do it myself. If it helps to know, I’ve made a pledge to go for a year without alcohol or any other mind altering substance, not even caffeine ;), but I have only told a handful of people. I am also terrified of an upcoming 2 week gathering with my family where we all normally knock back the vino every night, but I am determined. After two months already I have felt the beginning of all the benefits – mental and physical – and they way outweigh the scary things. It will get easier and I find little rewards for milestones helps. Go get em! x

    • Alana November 20, 2014 at 5:40 pm #

      Ah thank you Kris! Whoa! A whole year without caffeine??? I’m not so sure I could give up my morning chai! :-). That is one almighty pledge. Good on you! I totally know what you mean about the mental and physical benefits outweighing the scary things. And then after a while it just becomes the norm doesn’t it? But yes, those occasions that roll around when you used to drink, and everyone expects you to drink are the toughest. It takes me back to when I first became vegan. Everyone was so shocked that I didn’t eat this or that. And now it’s just normal. I’m sure it will be a similar thing with you and your family. Perhaps at first they will be shocked at you not drinking but once they get used to the idea it will all settle down. Good luck! I can’t wait to hear more about this. Perhaps over a mocktail one evening? x

  2. Helen Saunders November 20, 2014 at 10:09 pm #

    I applaud you’re bravery in making this video – I can imagine how terrified you must have felt. We all need to be more open and honest as it helps others realise that they’re not alone in their struggles. Around nine years ago I gave up wheat, dairy, sugar and alcohol for a period of four years in an effort to sort out my erratic hormones (it only needed to be for three months but I adopted it as a way of life) and it made such a massive difference. Gone were the mood swings, feelings of paranoia, leanings towards suicide etc and I was once again a whole person. It’s hard, but oh so worth it. I’ve reintroduced everything into my diet over the past few years with no adverse effects but I know what to do if I ever slip back to the horrors of before. I have recently I’ve given up a toxic friendship which was just as difficult to do but I feel will be just as beneficial. Good luck with everything and thank you for your honesty and for trusting us with your story. Helen x

    • Alana November 26, 2014 at 6:54 pm #

      Hello lovely Helen. Thank you so much for your kind words. Isn’t it incredible just how much of an influence the things we ingest have on our lives? Often it’s not until we remove them completely that we actually notice just how much! What a strong woman you are to have given up all those things in the one go. I bet your body thanked you for it. Now, giving up toxic friendships can be the hardest part of all, because there are two people involved. Good on you for being honest with yourself and putting your needs first. That takes courage. xx

  3. Barbara Peter November 21, 2014 at 7:07 am #

    Alana, I admire your commitment! And I wish you great success over the next months.
    I stopped consuming alcohol on a regular basis a number of years ago. This just sort of evolved–it wasn’t a conscious decision on my part. I believe it started around the time I began my yoga practice 8 years ago.
    I haven’t had a drop of alcohol this year, but might have a glass of wine on Christmas Day. Depends on whether I feel like it or not.
    Yes, you will change. Yes, your relationships will change. Yes, some of your relationships will end. But you will emerge on the other side of this a new and improved version of Alana! I applaud your journey! Can’t wait to read about it!

    • Alana November 26, 2014 at 7:02 pm #

      Hi Barbara! Wow! Not a whole drop for this year? Go girl! “Yes, you will change. Yes, your relationships will change.” These words excite me! Thank you. I can relate to your story about the yoga practice. Though I’m still hoping to find passion for yoga, I have found passion for meditation. This, like you, has seemed to coincide with my wanting to give up alcohol… I reckon there’s something in that. Perhaps a peaceful interior no longer needs numbing out? xx

  4. alicesaysno November 21, 2014 at 9:17 pm #

    Good on you! I’ve given up alcohol now since March 2014 and after drinking for 20 years straight (inner city Melbourne girl that I am!) if someone had said that I wouldn’t drink, well, I would have picked up my glass of red and cheers to a good joke! I still socialise in the same bars and pubs that I used to, but sans the booze and hangover. My purse is feeling the benefits too!! But the main benefit, beyond a doubt is my meditation practice and my ability to feel and be present. With each passing month, I’ve become clearer, more present and the awareness of life, of being, of the intensity of sobriety (and sitting with that intensity!!) – so real in comparison to what alcohol brings, is impossible to put into coherent words. I’ve been telling myself and everyone that is just an experiment for a year, but I deep down am releasing it may now be my next path. I would only recommend it though if it is a pull from deep within. I’ve tried and failed previously because I always felt I was missing out, denying myself. But after a year of conscious meditation practice daily, it came naturally. Good luck and enjoy the ride!!xxx

    • Alana November 26, 2014 at 7:14 pm #

      Hi Alice, my goodness! Now that is strength! To give up and still frequent the same bars and pubs? To put yourself in that environment where you loved to drink? Amazing! I love that you’ve mentioned how it has improved your meditation practice and your ability to be present. This is one thing that is becoming very prominent in my life – the need to be present. I hope I reap the same benefits. Thank you for taking the time to share your story here. I love hearing that other women have gone through this process too and come out the other side happier than before. xxxx

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